What is it called when your computer or phone keeps searching and searching to connect to WiFi? Whatever that is??
That is my inner life everyday in this pandemic.
My extrovert, verbal and physical communicator self is on OVERDRIVE seeking connection in the ways that I am hardwired to do so.
That means … my inner life looks like this:
.. while my outer life looks like this:
And I’m just going to admit it. Skype and Zoom and all virtual connectivity is tiring. I know I’m not alone in this; it’s tiring for all of us in different ways — not just me.
While connecting through these tools are absolutely, no-doubt-about-it, incredibly helpful to continue to work, meet and connect right now, it is tiring, nonetheless.
Some days? It’s even just utterly exhausting. I explain it like this.
My body keeps reaching out – sending invisible, subtle signals to communicate with other people … but all the signals go unmet right now. My signals won’t connect because they can’t. Zoom can’t replicate our in-person connectivity. Zoom can’t replicate the subtle nuance to our human communication methods, neither verbal nor non-verbal.
And all of that unmet effort is just plain ole’ exhausting.
So, per Brené Brown (my all-in-#1-gal right now), I am writing myself permission slips. And I’m writing as many as I need today. And you bet, I’m going to write as many as I need tomorrow, too.
- I am granting myself permission to be tired of Zoom’ing.
- I’m granting myself permission to go outside and run when I should be picking up the disaster that is my house after morning & afternoon online school & in-home play in between.
- I’m granting myself permission to worry less about the well-planned and well-balanced meal that somehow gets onto the table tonight.
- I’m granting myself permission to screw up. Because THAT right there? is a sure bet. Today. Tomorrow. In the next five minutes …
- And? I’m granting myself permission to forget that I’ve granted myself permission.
I invite you to allow yourself the space to be tired. To be honest with yourself about what you can and cannot “do,” and to embrace that your capacity right now might be diminished. If the above practice of granting yourself permission helps – DO IT. I highly recommend it. I use sticky notes!
And remember … whatever connection you seek, whatever you succeed or fail at, whatever nap you take or don’t take …
You remain loved by God, and you always have a family in the church of God here at Los Altos UMC.
And as Jesus spoke to his scared, “safer-at-home” disciples after his death (John 20:19-20) …
19 When it was evening on that day, the first day of the week, and the doors of the house where the disciples had met were locked …, Jesus came and stood among them and said, “Peace be with you.” 20
Peace be with you.
Peace be with you,
~ Pastor Melinda